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Actor Boris Kodjoe's Fat Women + Chicken Wings Nightmare! Aaah!

It happens a lot. These days, especially, on the internet - people say type things, offend people and then have to cleverly backtrack. Our recent case study: Mr. Boris Kodjoe.

The actor shared a nightmare about women grinding on him, with his 70k+ followers on Twitter. I'm sure many of whom would have wanted to comply. But these were big women - armed with chicken, so his formula for a stereotypical male fantasy - was transformed into sheer horror.

After flack from the revelation of his frightening nightmare, he took his DBery to a new level and flipped the script on those replying to him, by introducing the #FatExcuses hashtag. And if you're on Twitter enough, you know there's at least one trending topic a week devoted to people of size. Most notable being: #H**sOutHereBuiltLike #FatPeopleProblems, etc. And while some may provoke a chuckle, it's really crazy to witness how strongly people feel about other people's bodies and not necessarily their health.

Following his expert weight loss advice, per usual, was the divide on the issues of Black women and our weight. You had the on stand-by fat haters, with the "he's right!" And even women who were "inspired" by his thong/chicken encounter, hashtag and generic suggestions ... to stop being fat. But I couldn't join in. I refuse to accept someone with little sensitivity, or even compassion about a matter, direct constructive dialogue. Dialogue that was forced, after criticism from his fans.

Being the realist, that I like to be seen as - there are excuses made and a host of other enabling factors to being unhealthy and overweight. I should know, I was one who made them! But is it fair to attest just 'making excuses' to being obese? Can we ever include factors such as mental health, safety of environments (for outdoor activities), education (or lack of), nutritional resources (again, or lack of), etc.? Ever?

I just think his initial tweet came off very juvenile and was unnecessary. Even if he really did have that nightmare, what's the significance in sharing it? And if you must tell, stand by your decision to make a funny about fat people - which no one can convince me otherwise, that that wasn't his objective. Don't Google hypertension statistics, afterwards, because you're concerned. I would love to give him the benefit of the doubt, that he knew he wouldn't just be able to back away from this, but I'm struggling.

Maybe he saw this overused photo, for darn near
every Black women and obesity topic, before bed?

Bottom line, if you care, there are better ways in expressing it, is all. Disclosing your fat girl nightmare, (in my Yeezy voice) is "a pretty bad way to start the conversation."


ClutchMagazine.com | Boris Kodjoe Challenges Black Women to Stop Making #FatExcuses
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